The phrase "decentering men" gained significant traction in 2025, inspiring a social media movement among young women. The concept, popularized on platforms like TikTok, encourages women to prioritize their own lives and well-being over seeking romantic relationships with men.

The term "decentering men" was initially coined in 2019 by author and content creator Charlie Taylor in her book, "Decentering Men: How to Decenter Men." However, it experienced a surge in popularity this year, particularly among young women sharing content focused on self-reliance and personal growth outside of traditional romantic partnerships. TikTok became a hub for women posting videos offering advice on how to thrive independently and deprioritize finding a mate.

This trend reflects a broader cultural shift, with many young women re-evaluating traditional expectations around dating and marriage. Cultural observers note that figures like Tracee Ellis Ross, who documents her single and glamorous lifestyle on the Roku series "Solo Traveling With Tracee Ellis Ross," have played a role in challenging reductive notions around single womanhood.

Kyndall Cunningham, a culture writer who covers gender, relationships, and social trends, observed the rise of the "decentering men" movement throughout the year. "I can't tell you the exact moment every other woman on my TikTok feed decided they were decentering men, but I've never heard the phrase uttered more than this past year," Cunningham said.

The reasons behind this shift are varied. Some women cite disillusionment with dating culture, while others express a desire to focus on their careers, personal development, and friendships. The movement also intersects with broader conversations about gender equality and the challenges women face in navigating relationships with men.

The long-term impact of this trend remains to be seen. However, the widespread adoption of the "decentering men" philosophy suggests a significant shift in how young women are approaching relationships and their own futures.